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How To Pick Up a Girl in a Club: The Basics

How To Pick Up a Girl in a Club: The Basics

I thank God every day I was born male. What a difference one chromosome can make. Sure, I’ve got to deal with a media engine bent on keeping me in a constant state of arousal, but that’s not as bad as it sounds. It’s certainly better than being surrounded by guys who are in a constant state of arousal. Which brings me to my point. What’s the deal with guys in clubs? Schools should really teach a class about how to approach and interact with ladies in clubs. It’s downright outrageous!

People Watching

Clubs are appealing for the same reason I find zoos are appealing. As an introverted people-watcher, I like going to clubs to observe mankind in the wild. Over the years, the club scene has provided me with ample opportunity to observe my fellow man. It’s become clear to me that many guys are completely unaware of how to approached a lady in a club.

The amount of times I’ve seen guys shuffle up behind a woman to start grinding her rear is remarkable. You’d think the success rate would be a deterrent. It doesn’t matter how many times these guys get rejected. Where these guys see tail, they see opportunity. These are the same guys who will offer random girls unsolicited drinks. So, what should you do? How do you engage a female in a club?

Eye Contact

Eye contact is arguably the best way to both let a girl know you’re interested, as well as find out if she is interested in you. When you walk into the club, order a drink and relax. Take a quick look around. Don’t be creepy; avoid staring at anyone. Once you see a girl you like, wait. You want to hold out on approaching her until after you’ve made eye contact. When she sees that you’re checking her out, she will either continue to glance your way or avoid looking your way again.

This is important. If your potential dance partner avoids looking your way, she’s not playing hard to get. She’s not interested. It’s not your fault, so don’t take it personally. Just relax and keep scanning and making eye contact.

Approaching Her

If you’re fortunate enough to happen upon a girl who does return your knowing gaze, approach her via the front. Don’t invade her personal booty bubble space. Your junk should remain at least a foot away from her honeypot for the first few minutes. Use this time to show her your moves. It’s believed that “dancing for humans could signal whether a male is fit because it requires the expenditure of a lot of energy.” Show her what you’ve got. Shake your groove thing, buddy.

I suspect that if more guys refrained from slapping girls on the butt as they walked by, the club experience would be far more appealing to the female population. The better behaved us men can be, the more girls will be willing to put out. The days of clubbing a woman over the head and dragging her back to your cave by the roots are over, but things have gotten easier, not harder. Armed with subtle eye contact, and a good antiperspirant, you can avoid being that guy who just doesn’t get it.

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