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Online Dating Profile Writing

Online Dating Profile Writing
John G

Most people find it hard to describe themselves and in online dating personal ads or profiles, they are even worse. Daters tend to mention things in their profile which they would otherwise never reveal to someone upon first meeting. A search through any personals ad website will make it clear that singles do not talk about the important and relevant items for choosing a date or partner. A typical online dating ad is littered with points such as these:

  • Subjective self-descriptive phrases such as “I am honest, creative, and spontaneous, “ignoring one important question: who doesn’t think that about themselves?!
  • Incessant rambling about a favorite TV show, baseball team or rock band. Would you REALLY choose a partner based on that?!
  • Sexual innuendos: I like full body massages from my girlfriend/boyfriend, like kissing in public, and so on.

Online Dating Profile Tips

Here are some tips on how to go about writing a great online dating profile. Tips that you should discuss in your profile that highlights and gets the real you across in the message, including a glimpse into your personality. This kind of help should get responses from the right people, making your dating ad worthwhile.

The best way to write a profile is to imagine yourself meeting someone new for the first time in a casual, no pressure setting such as a coffee shop, a local bar, or friend’s party. Think about the kind of things you would tell others about yourself. Your dating profile or personal ad is the same idea extended onto the Internet.

Follow a factual but casual approach to writing your personal ad. You want to let the people get to know concrete things about you, but at the same time, your ad should not come across as a boring resume. Sprinkle it with some humor and exclamation marks! Make it fun and interesting.

A good online dating profile has 200-250 words, with 150-200 words for yourself, and 50-100 words describing the kind of person you are looking for.

Discuss Your Career History and Plans

Talk about schools you have attended, jobs you have held, and your future career aspirations. These are generally looked at as positive. Think of it as the first conversation you are having with someone: Don’t we usually talk about we do? This is excellent to write about in a dating profile. Be somewhat brief because you don’t want to go on and on about selling shoes, delivering the mail, or designing and cars.

If you have children, tell the other online dating singles a little about them. This is an important part of your life, and will peak the interests of people who are interested in dating you. Mention their ages, and whether or not they live with you. Don’t describe them too much but giving their ages for example, makes you come across as a normal parent.

If you have moved around a bit in your life, mention the places where you have lived. It gets more people interested in you and wanting to write to you. For example, if you are presently living in Los Angeles but have lived in Dallas, someone who has a Texas connection is more likely to write to you. If you have lived internationally, all the better-people are always interested in life in other places and cultures.

If you have just moved to where you are living now, mention that. People love playing tourist guides. They are eager to know new faces from other parts of the country or the world. They can also help you settle down in the town more easily-so even if nothing happens romance-wise, you can always make some good friends.

If you speak a foreign language, mention that. It attracts attention. Along the same lines, mention a little of your family genealogy, as people may find a connection there as well (e.g. I have a Scottish or Chinese mother).

Funny and Witty Go a Long Way in Dating

Talk about how you entertain yourself. This is where you can be funny and witty, so exercise your imagination. Mention about your social circle. Are you a social person? Do you have many friends? Do you go out with them a lot? What activities do you do with them? If you have a good relationship with your siblings, your parents, and your family, mention it. Mention if they live close to you, and how often you see them.

Mention if you like pets, and have any of your own.

When you are talking about the person you are looking for, be clear about your requirements, but make sure you don’t limit yourself unnecessarily. If you do not want to date men who have kids, say so. If you do not want to go out with smokers, mention it clearly in your ad. Again, be careful because you are restricting potential mates here. Write personals ads and develop your online dating profile with items that you are very sure you absolutely want or do not want in a potential partner.

Mention if you are looking for a stable relationship or if you are just looking to make friends and will see how things go from there (“looking for nice and interesting people to hang out with”).

Dating Profile Writing and You

In the end, remember to be yourself and let others know what you want. It will save you a lot of time and effort and just might pay off! Good luck!

If you want John to review or rewrite your dating profile, visit www.dating-profile.com.

View Comments (6)


  1. Bruce Gaddy

    November 8, 2009 at 6:48 pm

    I like this site!

  2. CBF

    June 8, 2010 at 7:36 pm

    These are really great profile tips. Another major problem a lot of people make with their profile is making it overly general.

  3. Vitality

    March 9, 2011 at 1:20 am

    I have just recently discovered one very important rule that mostly if not every “expert” has over looked or may have not realized. This one very important yet amazing discovery is this. It is ONLINE DATING.. I know right.. It’s crazy. Here’s what I’m getting at. YOU ARE NOT FACE TO FACE with the intended person. Therefore, Any single one person online can be what…. yea thats right. You guessed it.. LYING. Have you thought about that person’s profile you were checking out and wondering if this person is too good to be true? Have you thought for one second that this person isn’t the person you believed it was? I’m not going to get too far out of the box. Just know this. Anyone can come up with a list of qualities and attributes and not live by them. Brutal honesty and being straight forward and to the point I find works best. The only way you can really get to know a person is to what?? Thats right again.. Wow you guys are good.. gold stars for all of you. Meet in person. The goal of online dating is to coax the intended target to meeting up with you. Good luck ladies and gentlemen. I thought I should share my latest discovery. I won’t brag about my results to anyone. Figure it out yourselves. You’re big boys now. Have fun… 😉

  4. JT

    September 27, 2011 at 12:19 am

    I work as a dating coach, and focus a lot of my business on the online-dating aspect of the industry. I really like what you’ve said here, and think you’re giving good information. I don’t see the issue of lying in your profile/messages come up too much, but I think it’s a big issue. I’ve messed that one up before myself!!

  5. Angela

    October 22, 2011 at 11:28 am

    Profiles should be cute and funny.

  6. Daniel

    March 31, 2013 at 12:47 pm

    to all commentators please consider the following and sum all of them before you judge online dating or any non face to face.

    1- being shy
    2-culture diversity
    3- expectation
    4- experience
    5-time time time time
    7- language
    9- finance
    10- age
    11- religion
    and much more…………..
    please try to find could any of the above streamline the process seeking the perfect match according the criteria of the seeker.
    I have many things to say but I cant do that when I am discussing, but could be when searching.


John G

John runs Dating Profile, a company that helps people get more dates.