It’s not surprising we blamed love on Cupid’s arrow. It’s like some magician’s trick. What is it about a person that causes someone to fall in love? Is there some special blend of pheromones and alcohol, some special recipe that one can follow in order to conjure love? Who among us has not wondered how to get someone to fall for them?
At times, it seems like such a hard thing. There are so many avenues for meeting people. There’s online dating, and dating groups. There are single’s events and parties. There are social get-togethers from work or from school. Resto-bars, bar-lounges, lounge-clubs. There are a variety of places where you can meet new people. You might even meet people on your way to meeting people. They’re everywhere!
Taking it to the Next Level
Once you meet these people, however, what do you need to take it to the next level? What is the best way for you to induce love in someone else? Is it even possible to cause someone to fall in love? Do you think love is a coincidence, impossible to orchestrate or to achieve on your own?
What if love isn’t hard thing to accomplish, but simple? What if love is common? What if love is everywhere and it just takes eyes to see it? What if beauty is in the eye of the beholder? To answer these questions, let’s remind ourselves what it’s like to meet someone and to fall in love.
What do we do when we first approach someone? We ask about interests, and we talk about those interests. We compliment and we flirt. We appreciate. And why do we do this?
On a good day, people love themselves. People are selfish and self-centered, in a good way. Of course, we care about what we’re interested in. We associate with our interests. And we love to see examples of what we love in the world around us. That’s why we decorate and join clubs. When we see what we’re interested in, we gravitate toward it.
Reflection
The best way to get someone to follow love with you is to reflect back to them the best of who they are. People want to feel good. It is natural for human beings to seek love. When you take an interest in someone and you pay attention to what they say, when you take an interest in their interest, you are reflecting back to them what they love. People then associate how they feel with the conversation they’re having and the person they’re having it with, and they gravitate toward it.
Find Out their Interests
If you want someone to fall in love with you, the easiest way to go about it is to find out what they are interested in, and to appreciate it. By appreciating what another person finds favorable, you inspire within them some measure of love. And if you keep it up, and you do it well enough, that love will grow. And voila!
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