Let’s be honest. The words “easy” and “break-up” hardly ever go hand-in-hand. Yet, you can make your next break-up easier by taking some things into consideration. There are some very good ways to incite anger and fury during a break-up, and there are some great ways to ensure that everyone leaves a relationship feeling alright.
Choose a Good Spot
For some reason, people think that breaking up with someone in a crowded area is a good idea. Not only is this a bad idea, but it’s also a great way to make a person feel awkward, embarrassed, and uncomfortable. The notion behind a crowded spot is that a person will not feel inclined to throw an anger fit in front of others.
While there is some logic to this belief, keep in mind that the person you’re breaking up with can always unleash their fury on you after you leave a crowded spot. Instead, choose a place that isn’t too intimate or too crowded. A public park or a café are good choices.
Don’t Rely on Technology
There are few things worse than being dumped via phone, email, or text. Gather your strength, and break up with the person you are currently seeing in-person. Technology makes it easy to distance yourself from someone with one quick call or press of a “send” button, but that doesn’t mean it’s a good idea.
Try to Stay Calm
There’s often some fighting that goes on which almost naturally leads to yelling and shouting matches about who did what to who and similar issues. In reality, it doesn’t matter because you’re breaking up. You will both move on soon enough. And so, ideally you will remain calm as you break up. Screaming won’t get you anywhere and you’ll get worked up for nothing. You might even say something in the heat of the moment that you’ll regret later on.
Treat a Break-Up like a Therapy Session
Understand that the person you’re splitting with may be hurt or upset by your decision. With this in mind, make sure that you listen to what that person has to say. Be attentive, ask questions, and act kindly. There’s no reason to be aggressive or hurtful when you break up with someone. Also, make sure that your schedule is open following your break-up meeting. You don’t want to break-up with someone and then dash off for an appointment.
Don’t be a Grinch
You might have an entirely valid reason for breaking it off during a holiday season. No matter how good this reason is, wait until after the holidays to call it quits. If you crush someone during any holiday season, this person may regret the holiday in question forever – do you really want to be responsible for ruining someone’s holiday?
Avoid the Blame Game
No matter what your reason for breaking up with someone is, don’t blame another person for the split. Likewise, don’t use any break-up lines that you have heard about in movies. Just be honest, open, and as kind as possible.
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