It’s a viscous cycle. The day is not going your way and you need to air your grievances. before you go on and on about your feelings of discomfort, try these tips to change your thinking. I had a realization today, that I love things to be normal and when things are out of the ordinary, it’s a bit of a task to get back on track.
Life Coach, Michelle M. Brown of ReImagine Today says, “stop using negative words.” Her theory is that it changes the tone of your vibes to everyone you meet. While its sometimes more of a challenge to always be upbeat and in a cheerful mood, it’s a skill that can be strengthened. Be a breath of fresh air wherever you go!
1. Speak positively
Try to stop using negative words like can’t, hate, unfortunate or shouldn’t. When you speak, try to omit those words because it will color you mood. If you are venting to a friend about an issue, try to catch yourself using negative words and replace them by saying, “it’s funny that… or it’s interesting.”
It’s literally funny how just keeping the negative words out can positively impact the scope of a situation. There is a time for gravity, but search for a good word. It can warm up your mood and stop you from getting to wrapped up in a bad mood.
2. Count your blessings
The largest problems in the world are violence, disease and hunger. Most of the time the things we complain about can be rationalized. What you want to do, rather than complain is be grateful for everything around you and see the positive things in your life that are going well.
It’s so important to tell the people in your life that you care about them. Use certain times of the year like Thanksgiving to take the opportunity to talk to friends, colleagues, and family. Also, cherish the things that you have worked so hard for and lift others up.
3. Surround yourself with positive people
If you need to say a few choice words… choose to vent to a friend who you know will listen and help you with what you are going through. They may be able to help you put things into perspective and avoid getting into a viscous negative vibe. What you don’t want to do is unload on everyone around you because not everyone is going to be as receptive to your venting.
Spending time w/ a best friend or family is the most important thing in life. These are the people who care and want the best for you. Life is so judgmental and you want your friends to tell you the truth, but not knock you down.
4. Change something you don’t like
If you don’t like what you are going through change something. It’s a sign that you are not living your ideal life. When you hear yourself complaining about something too much, flip the script. If you are lucky enough to pick up and move or take on an new job or travel, do it. This is only if you can handle the stress or financial responsibilities of a huge life change.
Sometimes you can change your perspective and stay in situations that you are already in. Really appreciate what you have you will not constantly be looking for more. Volunteering, apprenticing, taking classes and studying are great ways to utilize your skills w/out creating a huge change.
5. Tunnel vision
When you can’t change a situation and you just need to press through it it’s sometimes a good idea to focus on your strengths. Focus on things you enjoy by doing this, you will ignore what is ruining your positive vibe. Don’t let things drag you down, keep focused and enjoy a task, develop a routine for balance.
Professional Athletes are trained on tunnel vision. They need to perform flawlessly under a lot of pressure. Tune out the negative and focus on what you need to do. You will realize that things are neither good or bad and nothing that happens is a mistake.
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