This is part one of a 2-part series on breaking up. Be sure to read the valuable tips on breaking up article as well.
All good things come to an end, even relationships. When do you know it’s time to break-up? Even the best relationship can simply run its course. When that happens, it’s a good idea to take a step back and look at it from a different perspective. Try looking into your relationship from your best friend’s perspective. What does he see? A happy couple or one that fights constantly?
If you’re feeling skeptical about your current relationship, take a good look at the following warning signs that it may be time to end it.
You’d rather be with someone else. Simple enough. When you’re out with your partner, do you wish that you were hanging out with someone else? If your thoughts are often or constantly about someone other than your girlfriend, then ask yourself why you no longer enjoy being with her. Chances are you’ll quickly discover that your relationship needs a break. If you’re getting close to someone else, like flirting with that hottie from work and you can’t wait for the next Holiday party to hit on her, that’s a sign!
You wish your partner were more like (insert the name of another girl or guy here). No matter how hard you try, you can’t transform your partner into another person. If you’re constantly comparing your partner to other people, it may be time to break-up.
You’ve decided to reach out to an old partner. Whether you just want to be friends with your old flame, or whether you’re wondering about past relationships, hanging out with an old lover is rarely a good idea while you’re in a relationship with someone else. If you’re starting to daydream about an old love, your current relationship is in trouble.
Your partner exhausts you. When jokes become boring, and outings become a drag, you’ve probably lost interest in your partner.
Constant arguing/fighting/debating/disagreeing. Call it what you want but if the two of you are always fighting, it’s time to break-up.
Your partner brings out your angry or sad side. Do you find yourself sighing a lot? Do you find yourself lashing out all day long? Are you stressed just thinking about last night’s argument or the one that’s coming when you tell your partner that you want to do something without her tonight? If your partner brings out the worst in you, then you can do better. That’s not to say that she’s a bad person, just not necessarily the right person for you at this time. Which leads to the next point…
You’ve changed. Maybe you two were great together at one point, but now both of you have changed, your personalities have changed, and your individual and personal needs aren’t the same as they were when the relationship began. That’s the natural evolution of relationships. If you notice that many of your common interests really aren’t that common anymore, it may be time to break-up.
You move in a group. Sure, it’s fun to hang out with friends, but if you frequently find ways to invite others along on dates, then you probably don’t want to be alone with your partner. Ask yourself whether or not you actually enjoy spending one-on-one time with your mate.
You no longer fight fair. When you’ll say anything (and everything) to hurt your partner, then it’s time to go. Once that hurtful line has been crossed, it’s nearly impossible to go back. If you find yourself throwing things in her face (like the time you forgave her for making out with some guy while she was drunk at a bar during the early stages of the relationship) then you know it’s over.
Taking a break from your partner isn’t a bad thing, but keep in mind that the reasons for taking that relationship break will come back onceyou decide to get back together. So, you may just want to call it quits, cold turkey to avoid that awkward eventuality (a second, permanent, break-up).
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